Written by Ashley Hamer. A study from psychology researchers Laura VanderDrift, James McNulty, and Levi Baker found that how satisfied you think you'll be with your relationship in the future is linked to your level of commitment and the work you'll do on your relationship today. In Jane Austen's "Sense and Sensibility," the character Marianne Dashwood says, "It is not time or opportunity that is to determine intimacy; it is disposition alone. Not sure where to begin with your wedding planning? Our Best Articles Daily.
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For more sound advice on love and relationships, listen to our interview with Eli Finkel on the Curiosity Podcast or check out his book, "The All-or-Nothing Marriage: Because you generally need time to get to this stage of understanding, Wendi L. So really, it doesn't matter whether you waited five years or five months to get engaged. This lasts anywhere from 2 days to 26 months, and then the couple will enter into the power struggle or the conflict phase of their relationship. Even though everyone—your parents and extended family members and friends—will have an opinion on the matter, from "You're jumping in too quickly! How long did you and your fiance date before he or she proposed—and what's considered normal? Download the WeddingWire Planning App.